Romance

Do we know what romance is? Romance is important for the marriage covenant and our relationship with our beloved. Here is the dictionary definition of romance; to court or woo romantically; treat with ardor or chivalrousness. So is that a verb and action that is part of your every day life for your spouse? Here is a good Biblical picture of romance from the the 6th chapter of Song of Solomon.

You are beautiful, my darling, as Tirzah,

lovely as Jerusalem,

majestic as troops with banners.

⁵     Turn your eyes from me;

they overwhelm me.

Your hair is like a flock of goats

descending from Gilead.

⁶     Your teeth are like a flock of sheep

coming up from the washing.

Each has its twin,

not one of them is alone.

⁷     Your temples behind your veil

are like the halves of a pomegranate.

⁸     Sixty queens there may be,

and eighty concubines,

and virgins beyond number;

⁹     but my dove, my perfect one, is unique,

the only daughter of her mother,

the favorite of the one who bore her.

The maidens saw her and called her blessed;

the queens and concubines praised her.

We need to let our spouse know they are special and not just because they make us feel good. We need to make sure they know they are a gift from God. They need to hear from us the awesome things they do. They need to know verbally and by our actions that they are important to us and our lives. Look how much attention to detail we see in these verses. He makes sure she knows he is blessed because of her and that she means the world to him. So do we show our spouses by our actions and words that they are the world to us and not just another person?
 

We need to make sure that romance is not just a word we know but an action that we do for our spouses. We can appreciate them, help them, desire them, keep the external foxes and the internal faxes out but if we do not romance our spouses then it does not  matter. We need to spend time with them. We need to spend money on them, even if it is a little. We need to encourage them and praise them. We need to serve them through our actions. And we need to physically touch them with only a romantic desire in mind not just sex. We need to shower our spouses with love and truly, deeply, romance them. Why? Becasue God calls us to it from the text in the Song of Solomon. And because if we love them in the covenant of love, we need to love them in all the ways they know and desire.